back to the 80's

Good Evening blog and blog followers.. after that last incident of the much loved spanking.. well. we just kind of came into a comfortable routine of sex weekly.. sometimes twice a week.. as we dont live together it is not nearly as often as I would like. Not to say that we had boring sex ,, it is never ever ever ever boring.. hahah..  quite the contrary in fact  Happy Pants makes me a very happy gal... except for the fact that I have to wash my bedding more frequently. hahahl.  small price to pay for the ultimate orgasms.. We have continued to chat with and search prospective couples.. and still have not met anybody at this point that we HAVE to be with.. hahah..  We just play with each other, and I still have way to much embarrassement to inform him that I want to be bent over and spanked again.. UNTIL..  the liquid courage of my cheap boxed wine comes to light on Thanksgiving Day.  Hah.. I was very very brave that day....  LOL... HP and I were texting back and forth as I was sending him pic's of prospecive SLS couples.. and I managed to get it out.. and said to him that I loved when we did that and I would love to be his submissive little woman.. hahha.   Little not so much. heheh. and I told him that I liked when he used his belt on me and I asked if that was bad??  UMMM.. no..that is very very good in fact. is HP's response. hahhaha..So, my courage building.. and my buzz. .and my eagerness .. lol.. we begin to do a little bit of play over the phone.. it is very arousing and makes me much more eager to see him.. as I usually am very eager to begin with. hahah... but.. we are going to a Party , 80's hotel swing party to be exact in a few days.. So, I bite my tongue and not ask him to come sooner..  We do go to the 80's party.. madonna outfit and all. hahah.. I was straight outta the freaking 80's baby. heheh.. Party was fun ,  until HP got to drunk to fast and passed out at 11. hahah..  ughghg..  we did get up and go back to the party at about 1.. I was a bit disappointed cuz, I was having a great time but,, I wouldnt dream of going back to the party without him.. although.. he would never have shown me the same respect or courtesy.. this I know from future parties to be told about later. ahahha..  I will know better next time though.. haha.  We got up and went down to the hot tub. yes  another adventure in the hot tub. I think it would have been better if HP were not so drunk and paid more attention to me then to the other people around us. but.. oh well.. the party itself was great though.. Except for the drama of another couple that HP knew. But.. it seemed to me that the particular couple is loaded with it.. and he was fighting with them that night too.. so.. they managed to ruin my good time.. as they somewhat did the first time I met them and we shared a room at the first hotel party..  But,, no worries. HP is no longer friends with them..  We will refer to them as Cunt and Dickhead  if you dont mind..  C/D .  they will be in future postings I am sure. hahhaha.In fact C/D  texting him ALL the next day and all the way home.. until I started bitching about it..  ughghh.. it was getting very very tiresome..  Needless to say.. I got no sex the night at the hotel..  a little oral action in the hot tub though  :)  I had come to a conclusion that since entering the swing scene, I get MUCH LESS sex..  I must have read the wrong brochure or something.. hahah..  this does get remedied soon though.. hahahaha..  I would go to those hotel parties every weekend if we could afford it.. shit.. to much fun to be had,  lmao.. where the hell else can I dance in a cage with two other girls.??  lmao..  and get naked and sit in a hot tub with 12 other people.. ?  walk down the hall of a hotel and see people getting blow jobs right in the hallway?  heheh..   I think I may like this swing thing after all.. hmmm..   HP is a great teacher but,, not very intune to my feelings sometimes..  always in tune to my body though..  Will post next experience tomorrow.. xoxooxo

spanking,, really???? who knew.. lol

Good evening blog and blogsters... and might I say Happy Holidays to you, as I may not be able to post this weekend.. . So, we are still questing for new couples and still chatting with prospects on SLS.. finding quite a few, but, with scheduling conflicts and upcoming holidays.. it has been difficult. However that does not stop HP from introducing me into the fascinating world of spanking... and I must say.. I really thought I would hate it, but, I have to admit.. this girl LOVED it.. hahhha.....If you would have told me six months ago that I would have fantasies about bending over in a candle lit room with HP behind me and cracking my ass with his leather belt.. with the sound of it hitting my  bare ass reverberating off of the walls, almost like an echo.. I would have told you that you are nuts.. I would never ever enjoy being hit.. are you fucking crazy? It seems almost humiliating to think of it.. or even to say it out loud, however, I have found it to be a bit empowering. It is deffinately NOT for the weak or mild.. hahha.. but, this is just MY opinion.. other people may view this as a ridiculous statement and feel that only a weak person would agree to this.. well to those of  you that think it takes a weak person.. try it.. and see that to take a hell of an ass beating you must have  a certain amount of strength and willingness to give in.  Our first evening of belt spanking was a long lived one to say the least.. we continued well into the morning.. and I did NOT throw in the towel.. If I dare say.. I believe that HP was quite impressed with my ability to keep on going with every whack on the ass.. Hell, I was impressed with myself.. hahhahah..  I did NOT use the safe word, which I will never tell.. hhehe.. until the very end when he asked me to.  We. dozed off and I awoke to one thing only . The words " I wanna fuck you " being whispered in my ear..  My response..  " I wanna fuck you too".. and we did. and hard.... lol..  I did use the safe word then.. hahahha.Now, every time I hear him unbuckling or even  , sadly, putting them BACK on.. heheh.. I get a bit aroused.. I have found that myself I have a hard time explaining to him that I do like it and I dont know how to go about asking him to do it for me.. because, to be honest I get embarrased by it.. I dont know if I am embarrassed that I liked it or just embarrassed to ask?  HMMM.. something to ponder I suppose... I know I shouldnt be, because this is obviously something that he likes to do. and I would love to do it more often... but, I dont want every sexual encounter that he and I share to be with this in mind.. I too still love the soft sensual sex. and thankfully Happy Pants is on that same page with me. I have come to find that we are very much alike in many ways.. and very different in some.  He has proven to be quite the teacher though and quite the partner. His patience and understanding are immense.. cuz. I am quite unknowledgable about this stuff.  hahhaha.. I will text him the silliest questions throughout the day as well... like what is mental bondage? or what is the diff between romantic and regular bondage?  what is shibari/  Is anyone sensing a pattern here?  hahahha...  I do believe that further deeper bondage may be our next step in my learning process and journey. Thank God I am fortunate enough to be with someone that I trust completely to not hurt me and to watch out for my safety and to have patience. I think I may be falling in love with HP.. and that is more then a bit scary.. ughghghgh...

next party

good afternoon blog and blog followers.. Needless to say.. much more chatting with FL friends and games to be played after that.. and chatted with several more couples on SLS... and our personal sexplorations were also expanding.  I had purchased a mattress bondage kit back some time ago.. but, we had yet to use it, until well.. the day we used it.. hahah..  It was a mind blowing experience for me.. as HP has done  this before I am sure. The intensity of having my hands and legs both strapped down and blindfolded was incredibly exciting and scary at the same time. HP. and if you remember from my earlier posts, the Vagina Whisperer  proceeds to make me orgasm over and over and over and over.. this went on for over an hour.. He is a fucking trooper let me tell you.. hahah.. it was difficult for me to not be hands on though.. I do like to participate in the sexual experience. quite a lot in fact.. I dont think anyone could ever accuse me of being a dead fuck.. hahah.. I am quite animated acutally.. lol. Maybe even a bit aggressive sometimes. But, anyways... this went on for over an hour, and I was acutally beginning to feel dehydrated.. between sweating and panting and, well.  cumming numerous times. But HP  being the wonderful lover that he is, decides to give me something to drink.. "thank you baby".. I loved when he gave it to me from his mouth though..  so hot and such a huge turn on..  mmmmm..  Eventually he decides it is time to penetrate me.. and penetrate he did.. lol..  it took only but a minute for me to scream.. xoxoox.. yummy mr HP..  the only thing I would request in the future about this particular experience is to be untied for intercourse,, it about killed me to not be able to run my fingers through his hair and run my hands down his back,, and grab his ass as if it were a mighty oak in the midst of a hurricane. ahhahahahh.  but.. I wont make any requests as HP is deffinately in control of the show in bed.. thank god. it is the only time I dont need to be.. and besides I like to relinquish all of my control and let go of my inhibitions and be told what to do in bed.. it is erotic to me and a huge freaking turn on.. I have come to find that I enjoy the whole spanking thing to.. which shocks the hell outta me.. but that is another story.....

the journey continues

well.. after that one brief encounter with Fred and Wilma, you would think that my sense of adventure would have heightened... and I suppose it did, but very little.  In fact, I think a part of me even got more nervous.. hahaha..So.. I pressed on in a take the bulls by the horn fashion, so to speak.. lol. I continuously am searching on our swing site for couples that I feel would be compatible to both of us..and of course the female part to that dynamic duo must not be hotter then me..hahahhha..  This may sound selfish on my part , but I  dont give much of a fuck if it does. I have noticed alot of mismatched couples on these sites though.. hot chicks and cold dudes.. ughghgh..  We have chatted with a few here and there, and had possible dates set up. I am not in the idea that we will be jumping into bed with all of the people we chat with however.. I am beginning to sound a bit trashy here. ehehehheeh... One of the couples we spoke with seemed almost perfect until they invited us over for a first meeting.. in the morning, at their home, with their 3 children home.. and they proceed to say.. Oh.. the kids wont bug us they know better.. WTF? Needless to say.. we did NOT make that date. lol. So, after that brief encounter with Fand W,  We did meet a possilbe other couple that will now be referred to as Barney and Betty.  I met up with Barney at the bar by my house.. as Betty and Happy Pants were unable to attend.. but, for some reason after phone conversations and texts he seemed harmless, and he was. We got to know each other.. hands and kisses free mind you.  And they seem like a great potential. but, betweeen all of our schedules it has not come to fruition.  We did meet up with them and Fred and Wilma too in fact at our next hotel party, but, that is another story altogether.. hahaha... Now,  I have also joined another website, that I found inadvertently on my laptop when I was clearing he search history.  I came across Fetlife.. which, I had no idea what the hell that was, but, I signed onto it and created a profile, and wowza  was I in for a treat.. hahaha.. It has been sooooo much fun playing on there, and I have met, virtually that is, several excellent people that are a wealth of information and wisdom for me and I feel as though I know some of these people personally now.. It is strange how the internet can bring people together.  I have had some great conversations of such personal depth with some people on there that I would never dream of having with anyone I know personally.. Maybe it is because you know you will never meet them, or because they dont know you.  I have some very erotic sex emails and ongoing stories with some of my FL friends, some so intense that I do believe that both ends of the conversation finiished the tasks at hand, if you know what I mean.. hahahh.. Which I am sure that anybody following this blog knows exactly what that means. LOL.  More to come tomorrow.. oxooxox

Good afternoon blog.. hehehe...  I will start by saying that since the hotel party, we mostly have just been chatting with and seeking couples that are a match for us.. which, I have come to find it is not that easy at all.. People seem to think that just because you want to have sex with other couples that you must be willing to sleep with "anyone".. well, that may be true for some.. but not this gal..  hahha.. I am a bit pickier and much choosier the HP though.. but,, he is understanding in the fact that we both need to agree on the couple, and I wont do it "just" to do it... the first couple we met.. Fred and Wilma.. and of course these are not the real names.. if they were I couldn't do it just because I would not be able to keep a straight face.. yabba dabba do and all that shit.... but.. on with the story.. We spoke with them on day and met them a few days later at a bar by my house.  It was loud and I was extremely nervous.. very very nervous. They were a much better looking couple then their profile showed.. thank God..Because you have to be attracted to the people you plan on getting naked with.. Incidentally, I had NO intention of getting naked with anybody upon first meetings.  HP had another agenda.. lol.. after a few drinks, I had used the restroom and upon returning to the table, HP informs me that Fred and Wilma will be coming back to my place with us.. I was shocked.. but,, agreed, Not angry mind you,, just surprised.  I should also mention that Wilma was also quite new to this whole thing, and I was under the impression that she was as nervous as me... boy was I wrong. After about an hour of pointless banter and nervous chatter HP begins kissing me, and we moved to the sofa.. and my nerves are NOT subsiding at all... but,, I press on.. Before I realize it , I am naked, HP is naked and Fred and Wilma are on the sofa next to us.. and without to much detail, we are all having a good time with our respective partners and nothing else.. HP suggests we all move to the bedroom and we do.. .. so same bed sex with our partners is what the end result was,  I did not want any more then that and I think Wilmas was on the same page.....  from the sounds in the room it appeared that everyone had a great time though... after they left HP sez. I dont know about you, but I think we were better.. hahhahahahhaha..  Of course we were. lmao. We did see tht couple again.. but, no sex and I am sure we will be running into them at other events too.. 

fetlife friends

I want to say thank you to all of my fetlife friends for all of their encouragement and all of the help with linking my website. hahah..  many or all of you will eventually  be part of my blog. and I will change your names too. hahah.not that they are real.. lmao.. hahaha.. Alot of the reason I began this is due to the great stories we tell on FL and the humor and the wisdom that I have encountered while playing the threads.. you all fucking rock.. ahhaha. 
xooxox
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The Beginning........ December 17, 2011 5:59 PM

will begin my blog by saying that I have just entered into this arena within the past few months. It has taken me on ups and downs and I have reached heights of such euphoric magnitude that I can't really explain. It all began when I met my male friend, we will just call him "Happy Pants", protecting the innocent. lol. I met him on a dating site approx 9 months ago. At first of course.. "HP" did not make me aware of his little secret side of sex.. although.. it did NOT take long for it to surface. lol.. thank goodness.. hahah. Now it seems as though it is all out there nothing left to hide and it is now time for exploration and not hiding the facts. We began slowly at first..talking about it hear and there. and just a little rough sex. then it escalated into a "somewhat" 3 way with a friend of mine.. we will call.. " sad Pants".. and we felt sorry for her sexual deprivation issues.. so alas..she was naked in my bed. hahah.. That did not end up so splendidly.. as, I felt that my jealousy got into the way.. I am working on that.. dont be surprised if this jealousy issue reappears regularly. Baby steps right? hahhaha. But, that did open the gates to a whole new ballgame for me. We dappled here and there. And tried to find others to "play" with.. although.. I have my rules and standards too. I did NOT want to be with someone that HP is regularly sleeping with already.. and I didnt want it to be any of MY friends of course.. People talk.. hahah.So.. it was a bit of a dry spell until Halloween party time.. My FIRST swinger party ever. and I must say it was an event to remember. heheheh. It took place at a Hotel. and of course the entire hotel was swingers.. heheheh.. a still giggle at that word. lmao.. I was dressed up in my costume and dancing away.. until the hot tub.. yikes that was an adventure.. I was very insecure with my body in front of all the other nudies in the tub.;. but.. HP reassured me that it would be fine.. and it was.. he is quite often right about these things. LMAO. We did quite a bit of fooling around in the steaming water, at one point I though HP may be drowning he was under water for so long.. not that this gal is complaining mind you.. heheh.. I assure you he is alive and well. afterwards he did manage to convince me to do a public display of sexuality that I never could have imagined doing. But, I must say.. the atmosphere in that place is intoxicating and you just manage to go with the flow. I will say, as I pat myself on the back and pat HP on the top of the head..which is the angle he was at.. hehehe.. we did a fine freaking job. as we got a wonderful round of applause upon completion.. His other moniker that I gave him is the Vagina Whisperer.. but for blogging purposes he shall remain HP.. I will continue with my next experience on my next post..

December 17, 2011 5:59 PM

welcome

Today is the first day of my new blog.. Conversion to the Darkside. haha.. I could not think of a more creative name, so.. here it is in a nutshell..  My journey into the wonderful world of the swinger lifestyle. I will try to be as accurate and descriptive as possible..  LOL.. Names and places will be changed to protect the innocent.. hahahha.